Monday, May 9, 2011

My Son is Headed for Asia

Like many single parent families, a ritual my son and I observed over the years was, "leaving home for a visit to Dad".  In our case this happened usually only once a year, as Paul's dad lives in Asia.

For his early years Paul's dad would come to visit us, but once Paul was the legal age to fly as an unaccompanied minor, he began to make the trip every summer for one month.

I thought long and hard about allowing this, and talked it over with several people. The general consensus was that kids have been successfully flying to visit parents, and grandparents for years, and all should be well.

Anyways he did successfully manage to fly overseas on his own (for flights of 14 hours), manage to get to know his Asian grandparents, uncles, aunts, and cousins, have a good time - and arrive back home in good shape. Still it was difficult to let him go.

I don't actually wish to condone suggest this action, this for anyone else, it is just "what we did". I think that now it isn't possible to send children as unaccompanied minors (basically on their own), on international flights, although I could be mistaken.

As you see, he's off again to visit his dad in Asia - and explore teaching options for next year when his degree is complete.


Saying good by is something we've become used to over the years what with those overseas flights to see dad;  his traveling with the competitive sport of judo; and all his years away at school in Quebec. All the same I'm looking forward to his return in July!


The Boston Lady said...

I commend you for making that commitment so your son would know his dad better and his dad's family as well. It took a lot of courage on your part, but I imagine your son has turned out to be a rather competent, self-assured adult because of these trips. Mom's are asked to make many sacrifices on behalf of their children and you were willing to let him travel on his own, in spite of what I'm sure were fears and nerves on your part. That is hard to do. Good for both of you! Ann

Mullin Avenue Workshop said...

Thanks for dropping in and leaving a comment. I have lately read that the children who fly as unaccompamnied minors, are pretty well on their own, although my sense was that the airline employees he came into contact with were pretty good with him.I think it may have been a little scary when he was 7 to 10, but that it got easier for him. I think a preferable alternative is to find a friend or relative who would accompany the child, or even another passenger who might be willing to take on supervision for a small recompense. but at the time this is what we did, and he reports that it went fine. :)

Teri C said...

I think your son leaving every year never gets any easier...the joys of motherhood never change. Having my granddaughter in Germany for a few years makes me realize how different the world is today. She is so independent and yet I know my daughter (and me) still worry and miss her.
You are a brave and loving mother Brenda and your son is growing in his education and relationships. July will be here before you know it.

Mullin Avenue Workshop said...

Thanks so much!Thanks for being a kind, good person - an angel!

Mullin Avenue Workshop said...

Thanks for your kind, caring comment here!
I'm so enjoying getting to know you!
Brenda :)

Anonymous said...

I thought I left a message here. Did it fall off?
It sounds like you lead a very interesting life!

Mullin Avenue Workshop said...

Hi Sandy,
I wonder if the comment fell off when Blogger was re-upstarted?
It's always nice to see you here!
Hmmm...interesting isn't how I would describe it, I feel that it's a pretty contained little life. But it's kind of fun to have someone say this!!